I was born as the 5th child of John & Susan Whisonant, following Amy, Lenny, Mary, & Millie. They also had 2 more after me, my sister Audrey Rose, was stillborn. Debbie is the baby. When I was 4 yrs old, I was taken away from my mother, because my father had molested us. All, but Debbie, were put into foster care. They said my mom was not compenent enought to take care of us. I don't know why I was taken from the Tates (in Hubbard). I was placed with the DiPietros (in Hubbard) and was to eventually be adopted. I lived with them for 5 yrs. I was taken from there after I told about the abuse from my foster mom. I had gone to bed without dinner, she use to hit me, I remember being on the ground & her kicking me....her own daughter telling her to stop. I remember her putting green olives in all kinds of stuff because I hated them. I would sit in the hallway writing (as a punishment), & she would walk by & step on my legs. I would have to stand & hold books for a long time, if I dropped any, my time went longer. (now some dont consider it abuse, but it was painful on my arms & legs). I stole $50 one time to get a book from the book fair....I only wanted one. When she found out, I got my ass whooped with a mans belt, the big buckle hitting me, leaving a big bruise. She use to dig her nails into the top of my ear. On Sundays (when I had done something wrong), I would go to church and be in my room the rest of the day, reading the bible. Then she would ask me what I read. I always memorized one story, then read other kid books. I don't remember what I did one time, but she hit me and I hit my temple on the dresser. I ended up needing 4 stitches. She told them that I had tripped over Barbies. That was some of the stuff that happened there. I left when I was 10.
I was sent to live with the Smiths. I was a very angry child. I had a love/hate relationship with thier other foster child. I would be nice, but then I would snatch her by the hair for doing something. I told her my secret. I told her about my foster brother from the DiPietros molesting me & the other foster girl. They couldn't handle me, or didn't like me, which ever, but then I went to the Sturms.
I was 11. While I was there, my previous foster sister had told about that foster brother & I had to go talk to Children Services. Later, I was told he was charged with a felony 4. I loved being at the Sturms. I was still a hard child to deal with. I didn't like doing things I was told, I was already boy crazy, I did things out of spite, etc. They were wonderful and to this day, every now & then we will write each other. this yr. I popped in the see them. I sometimes wish I had stayed there, but then my life probaly wouldn't ended up this way & there are alot of great people I have came across. Mrs. Sturm was very intelligent & told part in her kids lifes. They played different sports and they were both involved with thoe. I even cheerleaded in 5th grade. I can't even sit here and slist all the morals & ideas she had taught me, but in that point of life, I didn't care.
I remember 3 people from school the most. Abbie Demarco, Dan Vandenburg, & David Mickey. I have gotten in touch with Abbie this year, via Myspace. I have found out that Dan & David are both in either the Army or Navy.
I had a tough decision to make in my life. I had to choose between living with them, probaly forever, as thier foster child, or go to live with a family & become adopted. Well I felt that if I was adopted then things would be better. So, I moved to live with the Martins in Lima. I really didn't feel "at home" there. They were wonderful ppl, I just felt lonely. They worked. Thier kids were grown & moved out. They had a little girl, Ashley that had died awhile before that, in a ca accident. I think I was there to help them feel better. Noone could ever replace Ashley, but I think she wanted to try and fill a void. A void, that I wasn't the one to fill. I was still bad & didn't listen. I watched VH1 & ate alot. I gained over 60 pounds in the months that I lived there. From what I remember it was a mutual decision for me to leave there. I remember Ellen Landers, Candace Rampe, a girl Amanda, a girl Kayla, & Jenna Peters the most. I have found Ellen on myspace,too.
* THANK U FOR READING THIS & NEXT TIME I WILL WRITE MORE ABOUT MY TEENAGE YR.S *
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